Couples Therapy for Affair Recovery in Chicago & Online
When trust is broken, healing is possible.
An affair can feel like an earthquake in your relationship. The ground you thought was solid suddenly feels unstable. One of you may be consumed with shock, anger, and betrayal. The other may feel shame, guilt, or fear that the relationship can’t be repaired.
If you’re here, it’s because—even through the pain—you want to know if it’s possible to rebuild. The answer is yes: with the right support, many couples not only survive infidelity but also build a stronger, more authentic bond than they had before.
Why Couples Therapy Matters After an Affair
Trying to repair after infidelity without guidance often leads to repeated cycles of blame, defensiveness, or withdrawal. Couples therapy offers a structured, safe space to:
Understand why the affair happened (without justifying it)
Process the overwhelming emotions on both sides
Begin rebuilding trust through honesty, transparency, and accountability
Create a vision for the future that feels safe and secure for both partners
Learn how to repair not just this rupture, but how to navigate future struggles
Affair recovery isn’t about “moving on” quickly—it’s about moving through the pain in a way that allows for real healing.
How I Help Couples Heal After Infidelity
I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method Couples Therapy, and leading affair-recovery research (Getting Past the Affair, After the Affair, How Can I Forgive You?). Together, we’ll move through three essential phases:
Stabilization
Creating safety in sessions, calming the chaos, and ensuring both partners feel heard.
Understanding & Repair
Exploring the underlying dynamics and attachment wounds that made the relationship vulnerable. Building new, vulnerable conversations around needs, fears, and longings.
Rebuilding & Renewal
Establishing trust, redefining boundaries, and strengthening intimacy. Creating a roadmap for a more secure, resilient relationship moving forward.
Common Concerns I Hear
“Can I ever trust my partner again?”
“Will the pain ever stop?”
“What if this happens again?”
“Do I even want to stay—or is it better to leave?”
These are normal, painful questions. Therapy is where you don’t have to face them alone.
Is Affair Recovery Therapy Right for You?
This work is right for couples who:
Want to see if their relationship can survive an affair
Feel motivated to rebuild, even if they’re unsure how
Are willing to be honest, vulnerable, and accountable in therapy
Hope to transform pain into growth and a stronger bond
Next Steps
Rebuilding after an affair is one of the hardest challenges a couple can face—but it’s also one of the most transformative. With the right guidance, many couples come through this with a relationship that is deeper, stronger, and more secure.
If you’re ready to move from disconnection to closeness, I’d love to help.
Couples therapy in Chicago (in-person or online for Illinois residents)
Online coaching for couples outside Illinois
Schedule a consultation today and take the first step toward rebuilding a secure, lasting bond.